a Blog by Finn Deerhart

a Blog by Finn Deerhart

MY SHAMELESS LIFE

MY SHAMELESS LIFE

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Uncensored Pillow Talk Interview

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Big thank you to Paju for having me and Sam on her show! Paju is amazing! Check my events page for Love & Lust and Flavors of Desire workshops coming soon! Xo Related posts: Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX ART By Richard Schemmerer Love & Lust for Queer Men | September […]

Gay Is The New Jesus – Podcast With MeMe Cherry

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Big thank you to MeMe Cherry and her sweet spirit for hosting me on her podcast. We always enjoy each other’s company and passion. From her site, Series of Fortunate Events, here are the topics we dove into during this chat! Big hug and good vibes for MeMe Cherry!! Unexpected feedback from the last time […]

Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX ART By Richard Schemmerer

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It has been such a pleasure to chat with Richard Schemmerer of PDX ART.  In the process of answering Richard’s questions, I was able to contact some places in myself that have missed my own touch. Big hug to Richard. Follow his blog!   Tell us a little bit about your self and your background […]

Voyeurism Chat With Finn & Davey

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In this episode of Himeros Live, Davey and I discuss voyeurism and how to make more ecstatic sexual connection in your life! Please message me with comments and/or questions! For more content and engagement around these topics and so much more, go to Himeros.tv. Related posts: Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX […]

The Deep Feast – We Hunger For Love

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We hunger for food and sex, but, mostly, we hunger for love. The Deep Feast is a playful exploration game that we can play with our partner(s). It is scalable, meaning we can play this game as deeply as we want or feel comfortable. We can incorporate this into a playful hook-up, or practiced with […]

Shamebooth Is A Confessional, But With Follow Up

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I am so grateful for the handful of experiences that I’ve been able to be involved with Paula Williams and Shamebooth.  Paula recorded this little video of me a few weeks ago as we chatted about our lives and our plans to collaborate on an upcoming episode of the Shamebooth Podcast. Last year, I was […]

Vulnerability at the Heart of Good Sex – 8/9/2018

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In this episode of Himeros Live we discuss the release of The Reveal, a video that I wrote for Himeros.tv, featuring a game to play with a lover that helps vulnerability emerge. This is a pre-sex ritual designed to enhance the emotional fueling of desire by sharing small personally vulnerable revelations. It is scalable, because […]

Pup Play on HIMEROS LIVE, 8/23/18

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If you haven’t already, check out Himeros.tv for hot erotic films for gay and queer men that focus on connection, communication and education.  In this week’s episode, we talk about pup play! Related posts: The Deep Feast – We Hunger For Love Himeros Live Podcast Every Thursday at 4PM Pacific Time Excited to Share My Tip […]

Excited to Share My Tip with Himeros.tv

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Big thanks to Davey Wavey for including my advice in this awesome little video about how to increase pleasure and excitement with your partner! I’d love it if you tried this out and let me know how it goes! Join Himeros.tv and get 20% off your membership at himeros.tv/sale.  Thank you to our gay sex […]

Technique for Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

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When we encounter a recurring performance anxiety, shame or unpleasant emotion during sex, we might want to push it away and not fully deal with it. Unfortunately, ignoring these feelings won’t help. Here is a technique to help you start to work with those feelings as they arise in the moment. Big thanks to Davey […]

Orgasm, The Moment Of Creation

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Himeros TV is now featuring content that I have written, inspired by my own journey and by the lives and practices of the men in our community. Thank you for sharing your struggles, hopes, vulnerabilities and strengths with me! The moment of orgasm is sheer bliss. It takes us into a space and time that […]

Himeros Live Podcast Every Thursday at 4PM Pacific Time

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Have you been listening to Davey Wavey and friends on Himeros LIVE? It’s our weekly live podcast based on Himeros.tv’s newest videos – and you can listen or subscribe with Apple Podcasts or Google Play. Please rate and comment! It helps new people find us. Join Davey, Matthew, and Finn each week to hear discussions about sex and intimacy […]

Touch It Where It Hurts

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Many of us gay, queer and trans men enter into this world with secrecy and shame surrounding our sexualities. From birth, Sex and Spirit are divided, separate parts of our personalities that often seem to be in conflict with each other. Whether or not we realize it, we may spend our entire lives trying to […]

Fantasy As A Tool For Better Sex

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Fantasy is the vehicle that carries erotic energy from our psyches, through our bodies, into a resultant sexual experience. In realtime, fantasy powerfully corrects the inhibiting belief systems that we hold by allowing us to “see” ourselves in different ways than solely from the perceptions that are lodged in our subconscious minds. It is live […]

Hang in There! Message to youth at Essex County LGBT RAIN Foundation

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This video was created to address adolescents that are being housed by the Essex County LGBT RAIN Foundation, a non-profit that provides emergency shelter services to address the emergent need of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender individuals experiencing crisis leading to homelessness. Programs at the foundation aim to help adolescents lead healthy, productive and meaningful […]

Who am I?

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It has been so much easier for me to hide than to reveal myself. I have hidden my dreams so that I could remain asleep. I have hidden my wedding ring so that I could cheat. I have hidden my own deeply known truths behind a complicit intellect so that I might appear to “have […]

A Creative Path for Working Through Inhibitions

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Big thanks to Davey Wavey for featuring my article on Himeros.tv.  It’s like porn, but better, using erotica to teach gay men about how to have better sex.  Himeros offers erotic content with a focus on communication, connection, and skills for improving our sexual lives. Ask yourself: What is one aspect of sex that makes […]

New Video Project Coming Soon!!

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I’m so excited to share a little bit about this new collaborative project featuring Matt Sturm, Tantra instructor, and myself.   Big thanks to Milan Lostica and Sergey Karpuhin for filming and supporting us in this project!  The videos are instructional for gay, queer, and trans men seeking a deep connections and more exciting sex! Related posts: […]

The Real Drag – Finn Deerhart & D’Arcy Drollinger on Healing the Feminine

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Finn Deerhart with The Agenda SF chats with D’Arcy Drollinger of SF Oasis about queer men and their healing journeys, finding personal authenticity, and how drag helped D’Arcy find himself. Big Thank you to D’Arcy for all that he is doing to help queer men in the Bay Area and beyond. Related posts: Interview And […]

Love Unlocked: Letting Go of Shame Is the Key to Self-Love & Intimacy REPLAY VIDEO

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Big thanks to Bryan Koserek of Your Dream Life Unlocked for hosting this conversation with me about shame, sex, intimacy and healing! Related posts: LOVE UNLOCKED: Letting Go of Shame is the Key to Self-Love & Intimacy New Video Project Coming Soon!! Sunday Bloody Sunday: The Price of Shame A Creative Path for Working Through Inhibitions