a Blog by Finn Deerhart

a Blog by Finn Deerhart

MY SHAMELESS LIFE

MY SHAMELESS LIFE

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Himeros.TV Winter Preview Video

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Winter Preview!! If you haven’t subscribed yet to Himeros.tv, check out this preview video to see what kind of content we are creating! Then, by subscribing via Finn’s Link, you will help support me and my work as a writer and coach! If you are deciding to become part of the Himeros family, please use […]

Shamebooth Podcast Interview With Paula Williams

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  Finn Deerhart Episode – Ain’t No Shame In Gay, Nov 10, 2018 Thank you so much, Paula Williams and team, for hosting me on SHAMEBOOTH Podcast to share and hear about our lives as we confront what holds us back, both personally and collectively. SHAMEBOOTH is a podcast about getting proud. Through recordings from […]

In The Closet – We Learn To Eroticize Secrecy

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  In The Closet, featured on Himeros.tv, written by Finn Deerhart. Full version here. As we first began to notice that we were attracted to men, many of us gay guys had little choice but to hide those desires from everyone in our outside worlds. We lived fearfully in secret compartments. Coming out of the […]

Post-Filming Conversation On Himeros Live With Davey Wavey & Dalton Briggs

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I have just returned to San Francisco after coaching on set of Himeros.tv. It was such an amazing experience, both personally and professionally. In three days, we filmed 12 concepts that focused on intergenerational healing between older and younger.  The themes that relate to the lives of older gay men touch all of us deeply. […]

10/18/2018 The End Of Ageism In The Gay Community

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Davey, Finn, & Brad discuss ageism in the gay community and how we are creating opportunities for older and younger men to connect over our journeys into self-acceptance and sexuality. This is a super rich discussion! For more info and a preview, check out the blog about this video by Davey Wavey. Related posts: Interview […]

Uncensored Pillow Talk Interview

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Big thank you to Paju for having me and Sam on her show! Paju is amazing! Check my events page for Love & Lust and Flavors of Desire workshops coming soon! Xo Related posts: Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX ART By Richard Schemmerer Love & Lust for Queer Men | September […]

Gay Is The New Jesus – Podcast With MeMe Cherry

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Big thank you to MeMe Cherry and her sweet spirit for hosting me on her podcast. We always enjoy each other’s company and passion. From her site, Series of Fortunate Events, here are the topics we dove into during this chat! Big hug and good vibes for MeMe Cherry!! Unexpected feedback from the last time […]

Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX ART By Richard Schemmerer

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It has been such a pleasure to chat with Richard Schemmerer of PDX ART.  In the process of answering Richard’s questions, I was able to contact some places in myself that have missed my own touch. Big hug to Richard. Follow his blog!   Tell us a little bit about your self and your background […]

Voyeurism Chat With Finn & Davey

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In this episode of Himeros Live, Davey and I discuss voyeurism and how to make more ecstatic sexual connection in your life! Please message me with comments and/or questions! For more content and engagement around these topics and so much more, go to Himeros.tv. Related posts: Post-Filming Conversation On Himeros Live With Davey Wavey & […]

The Deep Feast – We Hunger For Love

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We hunger for food and sex, but, mostly, we hunger for love. The Deep Feast is a playful exploration game that we can play with our partner(s). It is scalable, meaning we can play this game as deeply as we want or feel comfortable. We can incorporate this into a playful hook-up, or practiced with […]

Shamebooth Is A Confessional, But With Follow Up

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I am so grateful for the handful of experiences that I’ve been able to be involved with Paula Williams and Shamebooth.  Paula recorded this little video of me a few weeks ago as we chatted about our lives and our plans to collaborate on an upcoming episode of the Shamebooth Podcast. Last year, I was […]

Vulnerability at the Heart of Good Sex – 8/9/2018

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In this episode of Himeros Live we discuss the release of The Reveal, a video that I wrote for Himeros.tv, featuring a game to play with a lover that helps vulnerability emerge. This is a pre-sex ritual designed to enhance the emotional fueling of desire by sharing small personally vulnerable revelations. It is scalable, because […]

Pup Play on HIMEROS LIVE, 8/23/18

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If you haven’t already, check out Himeros.tv for hot erotic films for gay and queer men that focus on connection, communication and education.  In this week’s episode, we talk about pup play! Related posts: Post-Filming Conversation On Himeros Live With Davey Wavey & Dalton Briggs The Deep Feast – We Hunger For Love Himeros.TV Winter Preview […]

Excited to Share My Tip with Himeros.tv

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Big thanks to Davey Wavey for including my advice in this awesome little video about how to increase pleasure and excitement with your partner! I’d love it if you tried this out and let me know how it goes! Join Himeros.tv and get 20% off your membership at himeros.tv/sale.  Thank you to our gay sex […]

Technique for Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

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When we encounter a recurring performance anxiety, shame or unpleasant emotion during sex, we might want to push it away and not fully deal with it. Unfortunately, ignoring these feelings won’t help. Here is a technique to help you start to work with those feelings as they arise in the moment. Big thanks to Davey […]

Orgasm, The Moment Of Creation

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Himeros TV is now featuring content that I have written, inspired by my own journey and by the lives and practices of the men in our community. Thank you for sharing your struggles, hopes, vulnerabilities and strengths with me! The moment of orgasm is sheer bliss. It takes us into a space and time that […]

Himeros Live Podcast Every Thursday at 4PM Pacific Time

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Have you been listening to Davey Wavey and friends on Himeros LIVE? It’s our weekly live podcast based on Himeros.tv’s newest videos – and you can listen or subscribe with Apple Podcasts or Google Play. Please rate and comment! It helps new people find us. Join Davey, Matthew, and Finn each week to hear discussions about sex and intimacy […]

Touch It Where It Hurts

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Many of us gay, queer and trans men enter into this world with secrecy and shame surrounding our sexualities. From birth, Sex and Spirit are divided, separate parts of our personalities that often seem to be in conflict with each other. Whether or not we realize it, we may spend our entire lives trying to […]

Fantasy As A Tool For Better Sex

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Fantasy is the vehicle that carries erotic energy from our psyches, through our bodies, into a resultant sexual experience. In realtime, fantasy powerfully corrects the inhibiting belief systems that we hold by allowing us to “see” ourselves in different ways than solely from the perceptions that are lodged in our subconscious minds. It is live […]

Hang in There! Message to youth at Essex County LGBT RAIN Foundation

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This video was created to address adolescents that are being housed by the Essex County LGBT RAIN Foundation, a non-profit that provides emergency shelter services to address the emergent need of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender individuals experiencing crisis leading to homelessness. Programs at the foundation aim to help adolescents lead healthy, productive and meaningful […]