a Blog by Finn Deerhart

a Blog by Finn Deerhart

MY SHAMELESS LIFE

MY SHAMELESS LIFE

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Boyfriends Episode of Himeros Live Podcast – Sexually Transmitted Joy!

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I’m so excited to share this episode of Himeros Live with my partner, Sam! Davey and I brought our boyfriends on air with us to discuss sexually transmitted joy, relationships, and the freedom that comes as a result of working through personal gay shame. Thank you for supporting my work with Himeros.tv as well as […]

Outbeat News In Depth Interview With Greg Miraglia

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Big thanks to Greg Miraglia of Outbeat Radio News for hosting Davey Wavey and me on his show to discuss connection, intimacy, relationships and sex between gay and queer men. “Outbeat News In Depth is a news magazine style radio show featuring a closer look at the people, events, and issues impacting the LGBT community […]

Talk About Gay Sex Podcast Interview 2/22/2019

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Sex & Intimacy Coach Finn Deerhart is Helping Us Deepen and Explore Our Personal Lives for Fulfilling Sex and Relationships.

Gay Porn Star Adam Ramzi Helps To Lead The Way In Opening Up About Age, Body Image & Porn.

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Join the gay porn revolution & cultivate self-love Davey Wavey recently released a couple of documentary films that were captured during an erotic film shoot in Joshua Tree, California. One of these films features sexy gay porn star Adam Ramzi, and in it, he bares himself in a way that I believe to be very […]

Best Intentions for the New Year!

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This morning, my partner and I woke up at 5:45am to watch the sunrise over the Bay from the Marin Headlands. This wasn’t so difficult, because we fell asleep on each other last night at 9pm. I did not miss out on anything last night, and I slept like I died and was resurrected this […]

Himeros.TV Winter Preview Video

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Winter Preview!! If you haven’t subscribed yet to Himeros.tv, check out this preview video to see what kind of content we are creating! Then, by subscribing via Finn’s Link, you will help support me and my work as a writer and coach! If you are deciding to become part of the Himeros family, please use […]

Shamebooth Podcast Interview With Paula Williams

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  Finn Deerhart Episode – Ain’t No Shame In Gay, Nov 10, 2018 Thank you so much, Paula Williams and team, for hosting me on SHAMEBOOTH Podcast to share and hear about our lives as we confront what holds us back, both personally and collectively. SHAMEBOOTH is a podcast about getting proud. Through recordings from […]

In The Closet – We Learn To Eroticize Secrecy

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  In The Closet, featured on Himeros.tv, written by Finn Deerhart. Full version here. As we first began to notice that we were attracted to men, many of us gay guys had little choice but to hide those desires from everyone in our outside worlds. We lived fearfully in secret compartments. Coming out of the […]

Post-Filming Conversation On Himeros Live With Davey Wavey & Dalton Briggs

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I have just returned to San Francisco after coaching on set of Himeros.tv. It was such an amazing experience, both personally and professionally. In three days, we filmed 12 concepts that focused on intergenerational healing between older and younger.  The themes that relate to the lives of older gay men touch all of us deeply. […]

10/18/2018 The End Of Ageism In The Gay Community

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Davey, Finn, & Brad discuss ageism in the gay community and how we are creating opportunities for older and younger men to connect over our journeys into self-acceptance and sexuality. This is a super rich discussion! For more info and a preview, check out the blog about this video by Davey Wavey. Related posts: Interview […]

Uncensored Pillow Talk Interview

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Big thank you to Paju for having me and Sam on her show! Paju is amazing! Check my events page for Love & Lust and Flavors of Desire workshops coming soon! Xo Related posts: Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX ART By Richard Schemmerer Talk About Gay Sex Podcast Interview 2/22/2019 November […]

Gay Is The New Jesus – Podcast With MeMe Cherry

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Big thank you to MeMe Cherry and her sweet spirit for hosting me on her podcast. We always enjoy each other’s company and passion. From her site, Series of Fortunate Events, here are the topics we dove into during this chat! Big hug and good vibes for MeMe Cherry!! Unexpected feedback from the last time […]

Interview And Sex Talk With Finn Deerhart With PDX ART By Richard Schemmerer

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It has been such a pleasure to chat with Richard Schemmerer of PDX ART.  In the process of answering Richard’s questions, I was able to contact some places in myself that have missed my own touch. Big hug to Richard. Follow his blog!   Tell us a little bit about your self and your background […]

Voyeurism Chat With Finn & Davey

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In this episode of Himeros Live, Davey and I discuss voyeurism and how to make more ecstatic sexual connection in your life! Please message me with comments and/or questions! For more content and engagement around these topics and so much more, go to Himeros.tv. Related posts: Post-Filming Conversation On Himeros Live With Davey Wavey & […]

The Deep Feast – We Hunger For Love

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We hunger for food and sex, but, mostly, we hunger for love. The Deep Feast is a playful exploration game that we can play with our partner(s). It is scalable, meaning we can play this game as deeply as we want or feel comfortable. We can incorporate this into a playful hook-up, or practiced with […]

Shamebooth Is A Confessional, But With Follow Up

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I am so grateful for the handful of experiences that I’ve been able to be involved with Paula Williams and Shamebooth.  Paula recorded this little video of me a few weeks ago as we chatted about our lives and our plans to collaborate on an upcoming episode of the Shamebooth Podcast. Last year, I was […]

Vulnerability at the Heart of Good Sex – 8/9/2018

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In this episode of Himeros Live we discuss the release of The Reveal, a video that I wrote for Himeros.tv, featuring a game to play with a lover that helps vulnerability emerge. This is a pre-sex ritual designed to enhance the emotional fueling of desire by sharing small personally vulnerable revelations. It is scalable, because […]

Pup Play on HIMEROS LIVE, 8/23/18

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If you haven’t already, check out Himeros.tv for hot erotic films for gay and queer men that focus on connection, communication and education.  In this week’s episode, we talk about pup play! Related posts: Post-Filming Conversation On Himeros Live With Davey Wavey & Dalton Briggs The Deep Feast – We Hunger For Love Himeros.TV Winter Preview […]

Excited to Share My Tip with Himeros.tv

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Big thanks to Davey Wavey for including my advice in this awesome little video about how to increase pleasure and excitement with your partner! I’d love it if you tried this out and let me know how it goes! Join Himeros.tv and get 20% off your membership at himeros.tv/sale.  Thank you to our gay sex […]

Technique for Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

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When we encounter a recurring performance anxiety, shame or unpleasant emotion during sex, we might want to push it away and not fully deal with it. Unfortunately, ignoring these feelings won’t help. Here is a technique to help you start to work with those feelings as they arise in the moment. Big thanks to Davey […]

Learn Erotic Skills for Gay Men

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