Love & Lust for Queer Men
with Finn Deerhart
Wednesday, November 14th, 7-10pm
The Center SF
548 Fillmore Street
San Francisco, CA 94117
As gay and queer men, we have so many places that we can go in order to connect over our love of sex. We have sex parties, hookup apps, sex-centered formal events, clubs, bathhouses, and more. In the Bay Area, we are fortunate to have the freedom to explore our personal limits. Even though sex is central to our culture and connections with other men, we can often feel like something is missing. We don’t have as many places to connect with each other about our journeys and about what we are really going through on the inside. We can feel so torn between our desire to have really hot sex and our desire to be close to someone special, as if it’s a tradeoff. There are very specific reasons why sex and love are often split for us in our communities, and the awesome thing is, we can bring it back together!
- Is the sex that you are having authentic? Does it feel like you?
- Are you feeling like you are getting what you really want?
- Are you feeling disconnected during sex and need to fantasize or use substances to help you connect?
- Do you feel like you are repeating the same thing over and over without being satisfied?
Love & Lust:
In this workshop you will learn practical tools to have more fulfilling, satisfying connections and hot sex that feels truly authentic. We start by de-conditioning and de-objectifying ourselves and our partners. Then we can cultivate the intimacy that brings hot sex to a whole new level, whether it’s with your life partner or a brand new connection. We can cultivate our desire and erotic minds as vehicles to explore our full expressive selves, to heal our wounds and step into wholeness.
What to Expect:
- A blend of group discussion and practical exercises.
- Drawing on Tantra, NVC, Hakomi, current theories in couples’ therapy, sex therapy, EFT, and mythology, we create a safe container for you to share about your experience. This is a clothing-on workshop for anyone who identifies as a queer man.